Birth Fee: $1250 to $1850
Postpartum Rate: $30 to $40
Fee Details: I am a Master Doula for Birth Tribe. To find out more about the doulas at Birth Tribe, check out our website at www.yourbirthtribe.com I am a DONA trained and Madriella certified birth doula, as well as a postaprtum doula and certified lactation counselor. After my own traumatic birth experience, I became a birth advocate, working closely with Improving Birth Organization, LLC. I'm most well known for my advocation for clients that may be deemed as high risk, including twins and VBAC's. I specialize in clients with a history of anxiety and depression as well. I began supporting women one on one, as a Certified Lactation Counselor in early 2012, and eventually found Doula work to be my calling later that year. My birth philosphy is "Knowledge is Power", believing that clients who can communicate fact based information, that supports their wants and desires for labor, are treated with respect, and have significantly better outcomes during their labor & birth experiences.
Birth Doula Experience: 6 years and 234 births attended
Postpartum Doula Experience: 2 years and 17 families served
Clients per Month: 3 to 4 births and 0 to 1 postpartum familiesPostpartum limits/restrictions: I usually only take 1 to 2 postpartum clients a month due to birth clients.
I volunteer for an organization that provides doula services for free, or at very little cost, to low income families, women who are at risk, or young mothers. I also run Postpartum Support International Connecticut Chapter group, for women who are struggling with perinatal mood and anxiety disorders or are simply looking for support adjusting to parenthood. If you would like information about attending one of these groups, please fee free to contact me for date and meeting times.
Languages spoken: English
Service Area MapArea of practice: Vernon Rockville, CT
Melissa was lovely to work with and was definitely the best choice of a doula for us!
Its hard to really put into words but when I first met Melissa I felt really comfortable and thought we clicked immediately. She was also a wealth of information having answers to all of our questions and always kept things fun and light hearted.
Fast forward to labor and delivery...I had a marathon birth (spread out over 2 days) and Melissa was essentially there for all of it and her support in the immediate days post delivery was also amazing. My husband and I were both so happy to have her there.
I’m really glad my husband and I decided to hire a doula and I’m really glad we met Melissa in the process!
When my husband I and found out we were expecting our second child, one of the first people we called was Melissa. She had been our Doula for our first daughter, and had no question that I would want her to be our support again. My first birth was great, but had a difficult time dealing with my providers, which Melissa was helpful with at the time, but knew I wanted something different with this birth. I decided to work with a local midwifery group that I knew Melissa worked with often. It was a super-combo for me.
Melissa is always there with a supportive shoulder when needed, let us know what our options could be and suggested strategies to make the most of my labor experience. She and my husband also developed a strong relationship where he could reach out to her for ways to best support me. I am so grateful to have had This amazing woman attend both of my children’s births.
If I become pregnant again, I will reach out to Melissa the MINUTE we find out!
My husband and I hired Melissa for both birth and post partum hours, and she is exactly what we needed for our journey. Neither of us have been around many babies, and so this lack of experience was a stressor for us. Just knowing Melissa would be there once our daughter was born was PRICELESS. After each meeting with Melissa, I was left feeling more and more confident and excited for the arrival of our baby. Melissa somehow was able to both validate any of our concerns, and then say just the right thing to help calm any anxieties. I truly believe a huge part of the reason I had such a joyous and (mostly) calm pregnancy was due to Melissa being a text or call away at all times.
I don’t even know how to describe the chaos of my birth. Without getting into details I’ll just say: My doctor didn’t show up in time for the arrival of our daughter and pretty much every other staff member in the hospital room (there were A LOT) was shouting conflicting instructions at me. I was able to whole-heartedly trust Melissa, and I just focused on her guidance until the moment I was able to hold my little girl in my arms.
Since birth, Melissa’s support has continued to be exactly what we need whenever we have questions. She is both extremely warm and knowledgeable-two traits that have been invaluable to during this amazing roller-coaster ride of parenthood.
My experience with Melissa was hands down the absolute best decision I ever made! Initially, I was fairly naive about doulas and their role in the birthing process. It was only upon numerous suggestions from my sister in law, who had a working relationship with Melissa, that I eventually decided to meet Melissa and see what she was all about. Looking back I was beyond fortunate to contact Melissa just before she booked up! I loved my OB practice and was confident they had my best interests in mind throughout pregnancy and delivery. I thought "Well I have a team of doctors that will be there to help me, why would I need anyone else?" I really thought that doulas were for women looking for all natural home birth experiences and that was not at all what I was wanted. Upon my first meeting with Melissa, she explained everything. She explained her role as a doula, the different situations and birthing practices she can assist with and had an answer for every silly seemingly crazy fear I had. Melissa has this unwavering confidence and an ultra calm presence paired with an extensive wealth of knowledge about the birthing process. Melissa was exactly what I needed for this birth to be a successful VBAC. As testament to her greatness, Melissa knew my fear from my first birth was the pushing phase. I ended up needing a C-section with my son because of a positioning issue and "maxing" out the pushing time limit for the hospital. With my daughter, when I was 10 cm dilated, the nurses and doctors suggested pushing. This immediately struck fear into my mind and I had visions of the baby being stuck AGAIN. Melissa quietly and calmly gave me an alternative. She told me to trust my body. So I did. Watching the monitors, the baby began descending on its own, which was incredible. One thing I'll never forget was Melissa leaned down and whispered "I see her hair" and at that exact moment I knew, with her help, I was going to deliver this baby the way I wanted to!
My partner abd I recently hired Melissa for her doula services and any expectations we had for a doula were greatly surpasse. I always dreamed of having a doula for at least my first pregnancy and it was my one request to my par when we got pregnan. From our very first conversation on the phone i knew doula match put me with the right person and i felt a connectio. Melissa worked with us through our entire pregnancy, listening to our needs and desires. When my wishes were not being honored by my provider at 37 weeks Pregnant, Melissa worked really hard to get me with a practice she knew would be a better fit. She is extremely passionate about being a doula and has a ton of informatioN. I aiways felt informed by her and than left to make our own decisions as a couple. I felt really honored and loved the entire time during my 43 hour labor and melissa did an incredible job supporting my partner through labor as well. I know that i would have never been able to have the loving experience i had during labor without melissa. She means so much to our family and continues to support me to this day. She is a remarkable woman that I look up to and has inspired me into my journey of motherhood.
I had a complicated and emotional experience with our first pregnancy (resulting in a loss), so my husband and I wanted to hire a doula to help us navigate a hospital birth and full term pregnancy. From the first moment we met Melissa, we knew we wanted her on our team. She is warm and kind, professional and very knowledgeable in her field, calm and reassuring, down to earth and overall a lovely human being — all of the qualities you could ever want in a doula. Melissa was always available to talk me through my worries and to answer my questions. We had an unexpected trip to the hospital during my second trimester, and Melissa talked me through it on the phone and then met us at the hospital. She came to our house to get to know us and discuss our birth plan and labor techniques on multiple occasions. With Melissa by my side I was able to labor at home and have a natural childbirth at the hospital. My birth experience was exactly what I wanted and she was there for my husband and I every step of the way. If you are on the fence about spending the money or "needing" a doula, I urge you to do it and hire Melissa. It was the best decision we made during my pregnancy. Melissa, thank you for everything! Love, The Glass Family
Words cannot begin to express my gratitude for whom I will always emphatically refer to as “my Doula,” Melissa. Her coaching, support, and ability to embrace the human condition are noteworthy. Having her apart of such a special time in my life was invaluable. She goes the extra mile, and is clearly not invloved in this work for any selfish reasons. Her passion and calling is apparent and well-received. As a practitioner, I realize that having a patient -centered approach is imperative. However, I am even more convinced of its effectiveness having been on the “patient” side of things. The courage and confidence I developed as a first time Mom has been truly remarkable. The education I received from Melissa has been much needed and is ongoing. My first experience having a baby was a blessing. I had a wonderful pregnancy and a “straight to the point” labor and delivery (All of which was documented). Melissa was present for all of it. She adapted to my cultural, emotional, and intellectual needs as a woman and child-bearer. She acted as a vehicle to getting me the biggest blessing from God I have ever received and she did it with grace. Melissa listened to my needs and advocated for them being met. Because of this, she will always be “my Doula,” and will have a special place in my heart and in my family. A bond that will stand the test of time. Can’t wait for baby #2!
-Clinesha D. Johnson, Psy.D.
People have asked me why I needed a doula. I had apprenticed as a doula & served in a supporting role for so many family/ friends in their births. I carried with me the personal experiences of 4 miscarriages and the blessing of 5 beautiful births. I knew birth. What they didn’t know was that since the birth of our 5th child I had come to know loss, so much loss. The loss that was especially heartbreaking was that of my sweet Nephew/Godson at the age of 13. I chose to help my family in their grief while avoiding mine. When I became pregnant those hormones that were working together so beautifully to create the miracle of life, were a force of destruction on the dam I had built. Just like that all the ugly came flooding out. My grief suddenly overwhelmed me greater than my joy. I felt weak and broken. I knew my husband and I were going to need extra care and support. I needed a doula and it had to be Melissa. She always knew when to save space for me, when to sit in my grief with me, when to kick me in my behind, when to push me to question my truth, when I needed to breathe. By the time our son's birth came around, I felt strong. I felt connected to my body, my baby, my husband, and my God. Melissa had done everything that I needed to get me to a place where I could feel empowered again. This isn’t a birth story so I won't share all the details of the birth of our amazing baby boy but there are a few things I want to share. Melissa fiercely supported all of my choices even if she wouldn’t have made them for herself. When my son had issues breathing at birth, my husband went to be by his side. Melissa was WITH me. When our little Santino let out his first cry, I saw the tears in her eyes and the smile in her face, I knew beyond a doubt that Melissa had invested so much more into getting me to that moment than I could have ever asked her for, dreamed of, or placed a value on. Melissa truly was a blessing to our family of 8.
Melissa listens, she supports your choices and she is a phenomenal resource. She never pushed her opinions on me. She did a fantastic job helping me to sort out my own preferences and then standing by me when the time came. I am a very sensitive person and she never made me feel like I was bothering her with a silly question or concern.
When I went into labor, I had no idea how much I would need Melissa. Although my labor was quick and uneventful physically, it was emotional draining and my confidence was shaken from a tense situation with the midwife who attended my birth. Melissa was my rock. She supported me when I felt like I was falling apart from the tension. She answered my questions. She kept track of what was happening. She offered gentle suggestions and helped moved my labor along quickly. She advised me of a good time to get into the birthing tub. When I couldn’t take the heat, she quickly got cool wash clothes for me which felt like absolute heaven. When I told her, I was scared of the next contraction, she comforted me and promised me I could do it - and I believed her. She helped me find the right position to push in. She did all of this in the face of a difficult situation with a midwife who was telling her what to do and treating her with little respect. She did not let any of that tension show; she seemed perfectly calm and at ease which was exactly what I needed. I will forever be grateful for Melissa’s support. In the days and weeks following Melissa was available for a million breastfeeding questions. She also knew that I did not want to sacrifice everything for breastfeeding and she kept checking in with me to make sure that I was doing what I wanted and not just being pressured by medical providers or others. She really was a voice of reason and support through the entire process.Melissa knows more about pregnancy, birth, post-partum issues and breastfeeding than anyone I know.
I'm incredibly grateful for Melissa's support me as I welcomed my first child.
I didn't realize how nervous I was about labor and delivery until feeling my stress levels subside in the initial meeting with Melissa and her doula partner, Lisa. I knew I would be in fabulous hands and have tremendous support along the way.
While I ended up having a scheduled c-section due to a breech position, the support I received from Melissa before, during, and after my daughter's birth made the service well worth it. She quickly answered my (million) text messages and always helped me problem solve so many challenges / questions with each visit before and after our daughter's birth.
Melissa is incredibly knowledgeable, patient, and intuitive. I strongly recommend her doula services.
Melissa assisted me with the birth of my second child at Hartford Hospital in September 2017 and I truly cannot say enough good things about her. From the moment I met her at our first in-person consultation to the post-partum visits in my home, she balanced professionalism and warmth with ease. Her disarming sense of humor and frank, yet tactful honesty made me feel like I was in the company of a trusted friend, but her efficencieny and resposiveness let me know I was dealing with a pro. She not only made me feel confident in her ability to support me, but she helped me to feel confident in my own ability to achieve the med-free birth that I hoped for (I had had an epidural with my first). As a woman with a long history of anxiety. depression, and incredibly low self-esteem, that self-assuredness was such a gift and it's something that undoubtedly had a positive effect on my birth experience, recovery, AND will be something I will carry with me for the rest of my life. However, what I think truly sets Melissa apart and makes her a fantastic doula is her obvious and earnest desire to serve her clients as completely as possible. She was available to me at all hours of the day and night throughout my pregnancy, and repeatedly assured me I was never inconveniencing her. She took the time to get to know me, insisting I contact her with even what I considered the "stupidest" concerns and questions, and I grew to trust her implicitly. She offered honest opinions when I asked for them, but never forced her beliefs on me and was always extremely respectful of my own. And when "go time" came, Melissa was there for both me and my husband, constantly present but never overbearing in the delivery room - she empowered me to direct my experience in a way I know I wouldn't have had the confidence to without her. To say that I'm grateful is an understatement! I'd recommend her highly to anyone that asked.
Melissa is a wonderful doula. She will advocate for you tirelessly. From the moment we met I knew I had an expert in my corner. Her extensive knowledge put me at ease. She will never make you feel judged or silly for asking questions. I could tell or ask her anything.
I was planning another home birth with our 4th child. I never considered hiring a doula however as my pregnancy progressed I became increasingly uncomfortable with my midwife. I was also afraid I would not have any support if I was tranfered to a hospital. Melissa came highly recommended. I needed to be induced at 42 weeks at Yale. Melissa made sure the staff respected my wishes for as natural a birth as possible.
She also provided excellent support after the birth. She made sure everything was ok and got me the help I needed to manage my depression.
Saying I highly recommend Melissa is an understatement. Nurturing women is her calling.
Melissa is a fiercely passionate birth worker. She went out of her way to get me into a practice that supported my unique mono/di twin birth wants/needs. She is held in high regard in many hospitals around CT and this invaluable when emergencies or surprises arise. She has a strange sixth sense that comes in handy! She is great when it comes to asking many questions and comes to a check-up if you need the extra support (like me). She will not let you be bullied by anyone and will make sure there is a private moment with just the two of you if need be. Her warmth and confidence overflow and fill you when you are uncertain. She does not judge and gives you the confidence you need during labor. She gently guided me into the mama warrior she saw in me while I was in the thick of my medically induced labor and it got me the unmedicated vaginal twin birth that may not have been possible if she was not my advocate for the practice I needed. My husband and new additions are eternally grateful to not only Melissa but her amazing back-up doula Lisa Falkner. I highly recommend Melissa for anyone who may "risk out" of a homebirth due to multiples.
We met Melissa at a speed-date-a-Doula event and I knew right away she was the right choice for me and my family. I felt at ease with her and could sense that she could provide kind and effective support for the remainder of my pregnancy and subsequent homebirth. Melissa is very knowledgeable about all aspects of pregnancy and birth as well as helpful providers and resources for families. She was able to help me advocate for myself when receiving lack luster midwifery care and also helped me to jumpstart labor when I was approaching 42 weeks and in danger of risking out of my planned homebirth.
Her expertise was indispensable when there were complications during my son’s birth.
I cannot say say enough good things about my experience with Melissa. It was the best decision I made for my labor.
Also I cannot forget to mention the photos she took of the birth are breathtakingly beautiful and I will treasure them forever.
If you want kind, knowledgeable, and genuine support from someone that will honor your choices and your process, look no further. This is the Doula you want and she will help you have the birth that you envision for yourself and your growing family.
I contacted Melissa within days of getting a positive test, she was great through everything, giving me advice about MS, helping me with Lyme diagnosis in my third trimester, breach positioning at 36w, talking me through contractions on the phone on her way to the house, and even after the birth helping my family through a rough patch. She has really been a blessing.
Melissa was a great support through my 4th pregnancy, helping with my anxieties, calming when problems arose, and rejoicing with me when it all worked out. She is an amazing person a phenomenal doula.
Melissa is everything that I could've ever asked for as my doula for my VBAC; she is the perfect combination of best friend + mother + coach figure. She was always there for me throughout pregnancy, the entire time preparing for induction, l&d, and has been an amazing part of my postpartum support system too. She is full of knowledge from an insiders' perspective. I had taken the Bradley Method classes, was very well educated about the birth from a mother's perspective, but it was so helpful to hear Melissa's insight on what to expect and why, as it related more specifically to my situation/team, etc. Additionally, there was lots of down time while I was in triage for pre-eclampsia and waiting for the induction to begin, and she is so wonderful to pass the time with during the lulls.
One of the common misconceptions about doulas is that they might replace the partner's role as the primary support person, but Melissa was there for the both of us. She and my husband worked as a team; she'd try tricks to help me through labor and when she found what worked for me, she taught my husband to take over. And it was incredibly comforting knowing that either one of them could take a break and I was still fully supported.
I also loved how savvy and dedicated to her job she is. She is set up as a provider to get paid by a flexible healthcare spending account, which I never would have thought to do without her advice. She has a doula partner so you know who your backup will be. She and Lisa are a great match, and I would have been grateful to have her as my doula too if Melissa were unable to attend. Melissa has a beautiful family of her own, and is blessed to have an amazing support system to allow her to 120% commit to her doula clients. She is truly passionate about her career and it's reflected in every interaction I've ever experienced with her <3
Melissa was my doula for my third baby, and she was fantastic. First of all, she came directly from a multiple day labor straight to mine (they were at the same hospital, thankfully!) which in and of itself shows her dedication. My labor was short but intense, and she was with me the entire time. She used massage, breathed with me, and supported me in every way I needed to get through my contractions. When I began pushing, it turned out my son had shoulder dystocia and it was an emergency. Melissa stayed calm through the whole thing, encouraging me the entire way, and after he was born and resucitated she stayed with me while my son was taken to the NICU so that my husband could go with him. She helped me to understand what had just happened as I wasn't aware of what was going on during his birth. She helped me to latch him on once he was able to leave the NICU, and really helped me to process everything that happened during the birth. She was available to me via text any hour of the day, long before my due date and afterward, and I believe without having her there I wouldn't have been able to process everything. I would recommend her to anyone seeking a doula - she truly cares about her clients, believes in what she does, and was made for this.
I hired Melissa for my second birth. I was up-in-the-air about having a doula for my second child since I was able to labor and birth naturally with my first (I had a different doula then). But knowing how different birth experiences can be and the medical profession's profitinity for birth interventions, I decided to err on the side of caution.
I made the right decision as some minor medical complications arose later in my pregnancy that required weekly monitoring. There was concern I would have to be induced several weeks early, but fortunately I was able to reach 40 weeks before the midwife and doctors felt I should proceed no more.
I was scheduled for an induction two days later. I expected the induction to go much like my first induction- get the cervadil, water would break and go into labor on my own and have my child by the next morning and never have to receive pitocin! But my second labor did not go like my first at all. It was a snails pace in comparison and it rattled me. But Melissa was the perfect complement to this new and unexpected experience.
She was there to suggest alternatives to pitocin that the OB took seriously and eventually worked. She suggested to the RN that I needed a light breakfast, to which the OB changed my dietary orders and allowed me a small meal (absolute lifesaver- I needed the protein!!) She was there to keep me calm when I began to doubt the progression of the labor and she was there when my labor suddenly and furiously took flight.
I wouldn't change a thing about my labor experience, especially about Melissa as my doula and her support that helped me to achieve a second natural childbirth.
I honestly don't know what I would have done witbout Melissa. As a FTM with high anxiety, I was able to relax once I hired Melissa. She was available 24/7 to answer any of my questions/concerns and put my mind at ease throughout my pregnancy. When it came time for baby arrive, she was just as supportive as my husband (and actually helped him relax by being an extra support with maternal experience). Throughout labor, she helped mentally ease pain as well as being hands on. She respected every decision made and offered her best advice when asked. I am so thankful for Melissa being present during the birth of my child and guiding me and showing me the strength I didn't know I had.
" A doula can change your labor "
Melissa is a fabulous doula, she is very knowledgeable and friendly.My labor was not as anticipated, I went through 18hrs labor , she supported me right from the starting until my baby arrived.After my delivery I was feeling depressed with some things, but every time when I share my things with Melissa she gave me positive energy and made me feel normal.Me and my family are very much impressed with her.I am so glad that I choosed Melissa as my doula, I strongly believe and advice every pregnant women to hire a doula.
Melissa was my doula when I gave birth to my second child. My first experience with childbirth left me feeling something less than empowered (water broke, but I had no contractions, so I submitted to pitocin & epidural & some belittling comments from the on-call doc). But with Melissa's help my waterbirth with my second baby felt redemptive, healing, and liberating. I think the most helpful thing for me was Melissa's availabilty through the end of pregnancy. I could check in with her (often via text, which was perfect) with questions that I might worry were bothering my midwives. I knew she had a wealth of knowledge and experience (both personally and in her capacity as a doula), so it was always reassuring to get her feedback and support. She was the one who confirmed for me that, yes, labor had actually started--even though I was timing contractions at home myself (not to mention feeling them), I still doubted it! She could tell things were happening over the phone and decided to come see me for herself, and it was not a moment too soon. She waited with me while my husband made his way home from work, and met us at the entrance to the hospital, and just four hours later I delivered my baby girl in the blessed heat & weightlessness of the tub! I went into "don't touch me" mode during labor, and Melissa respected all my wishes. She was a solid, gracious presence but never intrusive for me or my husband. She even discreetly took some pictures, for which I am so grateful.
A good doula is someone who can sit with your fear and anxiety and check it against the strength of all the women giving birth she has witnessed. Melissa's presence at my daughter's birth (along with the company of nurses and midwives) seemed to call forth that strength for me, and help me go inward and find it in myself. I am still in awe!
Melissa was an absolutely integral part of our experience in becoming new parents. From pregnancy to labor to post-partum, I knew she was a reliable resource to bounce ideas or concerns off of. She never pressured us into any decision, but always made sure we thoroughly knew what our options were. She made my husband feel comfortable, especially during the labor process where he was most nervous. She never made him feel like he wasn't part of it all. She's extremely knowledgable, realistic and is there to 100% support your decisions at any part of the process. My birth didn't go 100% as planned (whose does??), but she helped make me feel at peace with the choices and compromises I was able to make.
Working with Melissa has made me always recommend a doula to any pregnant mom. Every mom deserves a supportive spokesperson, and Melissa would be our number one pick every time!
Right from very starting of my pregnancy, I was confused whether I should hire a doula or not, as I was a first time mom, I was so tensed and scared of labor and delivery. Whenever I was looking for a doula- prices were out of my pocket. Then I found Mellissa and talked to her. She was so calm, understanding, caring, knowledgeable and friendly that I became totally satisfied with my choice. She also agreed to a manageable amount and also calmed and handled me so nicely that things became easy for me. We were always in contact with each other through messaging and call, that she never left me unattended. Then my labor started and it startled with my mucus plug coming out. I was experiencing blood every time I was going to restroom. This could be scary for me if Mellissa wouldn't be there. Then next day my contractions started from early morning. But I was so confident and handling them with fun. It was my birthday and I was busy the whole day in celebrations and contractions.. as Mellissa was there to handle me. At night finally things became intense around 11, Melissa was rubbing my back and strengthening me. Then at 12 am we headed to hospital. And at 1:29 am on March 13 my baby was in my arms. This was truly beautiful moment for us. I am so much thankful to Mellissa. She is also providing my postpartum suppor wholeheartedy. She not only answers my questions related to me but also cares so much for my baby that always solves my queries related to her as well. I am so proud of my decision of choosing her that I refer her to everyone and I will say that everyone should hire a doula. With having her I can give birth again and again, I have so much positive experience....
If you are thinking about hiring a doula... Do it!!! If you are ready to hire a doula, hire Melissa Duenas!! After having had 4 previous births resulting in 5 children (one set of twins!) everyone joked that I could manage the last birth all on my own at home. Well, as funny as it was, it wasn't true at all. There was no way I would have been able to vaginally deliver the last set of twins unmedicated, without the support, encouragement and strength that Melissa provided.
This was a surrogate pregnancy, and with a teen and toddler at home I was worried that my husband wouldnt be able to be present for the birth of these twins. The IFs(intended fathers) of the twins promised to be there for the entire process, but lets be honest. As much as we had connected over the course of the 9 months I was carrying their children they weren't MY partners. They didn't have an inate ability to anticipate my needs before I knew I needed them. Melissa did. They didn't have a relationship with the labor and delivery staff at MMH. Melissa did. They didn't know just where to rub when the back labor started, and couldnt tell I was transitioning just by the way my moan changed. Melissa did. She held my hand and insisted I could do it even when I wanted to give up. All the while being attentive to the needs of the TWO dads in the room as well. Answering questions, calming their anxiety, and showing them ways that they could support me when they weren't quite sure what to do. When they were quietly huddled in the corner of the room up by the head of my hosptial bed as I pushed, Melissa was by my side, holding up my leg and giving me the encouragement to keep pushing. And when that first baby was born, and the guys headed over to see her for the first time, take pics and swoon Melissa was by my side helping me transition again to prepare for the second babies arrival. That unwavering support continued thru my postpartum and I am forever grateful for her presence!
I was matched with Melissa through a volunteer doula program when I was pregnant with my 2nd son. I immediately connected with her. She was very compassionate, and informed about the choices I could make. She kept in contact with me throughout my pregnancy, and attended a drs appt with me when I presented my birth plan. In early labor, I talked with her throughout the day. She met me at the hospital, and I felt calmer as soon as she arrived. She was a great support throughout - making sure I was comfortable, getting everything I needed. It was wonderful to know I had her on my team.
So, naturally, when I found myself pregnant again when my son was 10 months old, my experience with Melissa was one of the first things I thought of. I asked if she would be my doula again, and without hesitation she accepted. Again- I immediately felt calmer. When I went in to labor, it was a long, drawn out several days of not knowing what was really happening. Melissa was always checking in, putting my (unknown) schedule before her own. She met me at the hospital when I thought I was *for sure* in labor, and later that night, met me at my house before going to the hospital for the 2nd time. Again, she stayed with me the entire time- making sure all of my needs were met. She was so committed and empathetic. Yet, she let me own my experience both times. She faded into the background when she needed to, and seemed to know right when her presence was needed. Whether it was for encouragement, a (hundred) hip squeezes, or chapstick. Melissa has a way about her- she is reassuring, rational, and honest. That was exactly what I needed in a doula.
Melissa was my doula at the birth of my second son, and was so very caring, reliable, and strong for me when I needed her reasurance. My first birth experience was a traumatic one and I had much anxiety about the giving birth again. Anytime I needed to talk she was there for me, always knowing exactly what to say. When it came time to give birth, she was my rock! She was very knowledgeable about the labor process and she helped me get through the toughest contractions with the many ideas she had to keep me as comfortable possible. Even through a transfer from home to the hospital she helped make it an easy and smooth transition. I truly believe she is the reason I had such an amazing birth experience with my second baby, and I look foward to her being with me at my next birth! I recommend her to anyone I know who is looking for a doula!!
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