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Lila Backenstose

Conshy Doulas

Conshohocken, PA Service range 25 miles I serve the Western suburbs and the Main Line


Birth Fee

$1400 to $1500

Postpartum Rate

$30 to $40

Birth Fee

$1400 to $1500

Postpartum Rate

$30 to $40

Birth Doula Certifications

  • DONA International - Certified Birth Doula

Birth Doula Experience

5 years and 41 births attended

Postpartum Doula Experience

5 years and 21 families served

Doula Training

  • DONA International, April 2015
  • ProDoula, January 2016
  • DONA International, August 2019

Type of practice: Solo practice

Clients per month: 1 to 3 births and 1 to 2 postpartum families

Attends hospital births? Some Hospitals
I work with your care providers in the facility you choose to give your care a seamless continuity.

Attends birth center births? All Birth Centers

Attends home births? Some Home Births

College Education


Special Services Offered

  • Abortion support
  • Acupressure
  • American Red Cross First Aid and CPR
  • Antepartum doula support
  • Babywearing education
  • Bereavement doula (pregnancy & infant loss)
  • Military families support
  • Miscarriage support
  • Sibling support (for your older children at the birth)
  • Virtual and remote doula support

Languages Spoken

  • English

Fee Details

As a birth doula client, my fee includes 2 pre-natal meetings and 1 postpartum meeting, continuous presence throughout your labor and delivery, 24 hour on call assistance, birth plan guidance, and so much more. I will attend your labor (starting at home or meet you at delivery location) and stay after the birth of your baby.

Conshohocken, PA Service range 25 miles I serve the Western suburbs and the Main Line

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Amelia Dash


It's difficult to distill my positive feelings about Lila into a few sentences. From our initial conversation, it was obvious Lila had a calming energy. More importantly, she clearly listened to my questions and perspectives. When we met her in person, I again felt she was thoughtful and a wonderful communicator. I was blessed with a pregnancy with few complications, but I am also a first-time mom and aware of my anxieties. Lila was always quick to respond to my questions with information, reassurance, and positive suggestions. During my last trimester, I wondered (obsessed?) about what exactly the birth would look like and what Lila's specific role would be. She reminded me she is intuitive and would respond to the many possibilities birth can present. I was still anxious, but we knew we had a teammate with more experience than we had. When the day of the birth began unexpectedly, Lila proved her worth many times over.  She helped make the process more calm, focused, and productive. She was able to respond and help us respond to variables we could not have predicted. In the end, I gave birth the way I hoped -- and we were introduced to our beautiful little girl quickly and with clear eyes because of Lila's support. I can not recommend her highly enough.  She will help you understand your priorities, respond to the teamwork of your partnership, and help establish both comfort and focus in an unpredictable process. We feel so lucky to have had her as a part of our birth story. 

Hannah Koenig


I was really lucky to have found Lila. If it wasn’t for her, I wouldn’t have had the strength to make it through the unmediated labor I wanted. She kept my husband and I grounded and provided back labor support. I can’t recommend her enough.

Marissa Famularo


During my pregnancy, my husband and I went back and forth about hiring a doula. We really weren't sure that we wanted or needed someone else to go through the birthing process with us. After reading a lot about doulas and what they do, though, I realized that having one with us during labor and delivery would actually be a smart move and would make unnecessary procedures less likely. I was lucky enough to find Lila online and was drawn to her because she had so many positive reviews from other moms. When we met Lila, we both immediately knew she was a great fit for us. She brought positive energy and optimism into the planning process from the first meeting.  Lila helped us create a brith plan that worked for us and also helped us plan for possible changes so that we didn't feel blind sided later. 

In the week before my baby was born, I had a lot of questions about changes I was experiencing. Lila was always available to answer questions or just to talk about how I was feeling. It was really helpful having someone to validate my experiences and tell me that everything I was feeling was normal. It took a lot of stress away from both my husband and I. 

When the day finally came to have my baby, nothing went according to plan. Luckily for me, Lila was there, helping us through. During labor she was incredibly helpful and integrated seemlessly into my medical team, even though I delivered at a hospital that rarely sees doulas. My doctors and nurses even commented on how helpful she was. She helped me exprience the birth I wanted, without an epidural, even after I needed pitocin. She kept my spirits up and gave me confidence when I needed it most. When I gave up, she believed in me. Both my husband and I considered her help to be invaluable and we are so so glad she was there with us. 

I honestly cannot recommend Lila highly enough!! :)  



Hetty Eisenberg Rolnick


We feel fortunate to have been able to have Lila present for the birth of our daughter. We were immediatley drawn to Lila’s kind, gentle presence. As we got to know her more, we greatly appreciated her responsiveness and willingness to answer any and all questions. This was invaluable during pregnancy and postpartum. She has a ton of experience, but is also open to different paths. She meshed well with the medical staff which was important to us. We highly recommend Lila!

Joshua Arthur


Lila was an incredible partner when my wife delivered our second child.  Since labor was induced when my wife delivered our first child, we were anxious about the still-unknown process of progressing through natural labor for the second.  Lila was responsive, arriving at the hospital to meet us on barely an hour's notice, and she was a calm, reassuring presence throughout labor and delivery.  She balanced being receptive and proactive, suggesting laboring positions and techniques without being prescriptive or pushy, and ensured my wife had someone in the room focused solely on her comfort and well-being.  Lila helped us adhere to our birth plan and is the principal reason we both look back on the birth with complete satisfaction.  I recommend Lila with my highest enthusiasm to any expectant parents-to-be.  

Ashley Di Giore


Lila is amazing! We began searching for a doula when I was about 4-5 months pregnant. We loved Lila from our first meeting with her, and ended up cancelling meetings with out her doulas because we just knew she’d be the best. She was helpful and supportive from that first meeting on. Any time I had a question or a concern, I just emailed or called her and received a quick and helpful response. My pregnancy was rough, so I appreciated having this extra support. 

Lila was also amazing from my first contraction (Monday) to my son’s birth (Wednesday). She stayed in contact with me through this time, and was quick to get to the hospital when I let her know I needed her. She jumped right in helping me manage contractions (I didn’t have any meds/an epidural). She stayed with me for a bit after birth, too, helping with breastfeeding, after care questions, and keeping me company while my husband was stuck out of the room. She made the whole birth experience better  

I would highly recommend Lila to anyone looking for a doula!

Rachel Spoonhower


My husband and I liked Lila from the first time she entered our home for a meeting. She was very caring and eased my anxiety about birth from that moment forward. She was very easy going and flexible with our pre-labor meetings. She answered all of my questions and kept me calm throughout my pregnancy. Within one day, she dropped off a book to answer some of my questions she couldn't answer directly. 

During labor, she was very helpful in keeping us informed on what was happening when medical staff was not as informative. She eased my husband during the labor process and helped him stay involved while also being involved herself. 

Lila was also extremely helpful post partum and visited my house upon an urgent request to help with breast feeding and milk supply questions. She had no hesitancy to make an extra trip to make sure that I was ok. 

We definitally would recommend Lila to anyone looking to get a duola! The birth of our first child was a very positive experience with her help!

Julie Arthur


I truly believe every woman should have a doula for the birth of her child, and I am so glad I found Lila to support me when my second child was born in February 2018. Lila felt like a trusted friend from the beginning, always available to answer questions and refer me to valuable resources online and in the community. She got to know me and my husband and learned all about our experience with the birth of our first child, which formed a lot of our feelings about how we wanted our second birth to go. No matter the question or concern, she was able to relate to it with her own experiences and those of the women she has helped. She made me feel much more comfortable about the upcoming labor and delivery. Knowing Lila would be with us, I felt empowered to have a natural, unmedicated birth, as I did with my first.

Contractions started and labor progressed very quickly, but Lila made herself available at the drop of a hat. Given the speed of the delivery, there was a lot of activity in our hospital room. Nurses and staff were asking questions and making requests to prepare for the imminent birth, but Lila was a constant calming presence who was solely focused on my and my husband's needs. She helped me focus and breathe through each contraction in an otherwise hectic environment. She held me up and encouraged me when it was time to push, and before I knew it we had a beautiful baby boy. I couldn't imagine the experience without her!

bridgett Kerns


Being a first time mom who knows so little about newborns, I was afraid of everything that was to come.  So my husband and I made the decision to get a doula.  The first meeting with Lila was casual and we knew immediately she was the doula for us.  I'm a huge introvert and Lila was and is super easy to talk to and get along with.

The first prenatal meeting was a lot of information but Lila stayed until all our questions were answered.  The second meeting was similar.  The meetings put me at ease because they were so in depth.  I was educated on baby positioning, labor, pain management during and before labor, breastfeeding and newborn care.  I felt a lot more at ease knowing all this information ahead of time.

Whenever I had any questions about any changes in pain or questions about how baby was moving, Lila was always there to answer questions.  I probably would have went into get checked a whole bunch of times if I didn't have Lila reassuring me that everything was normal.

During labor and delivery, she was a huge support and got me through one of the toughest things I've ever done.  When it was time for delivery, Lila reminded me what to expect and what to do.  Luckily, labor and delivery was relatively quick but it was still intimidating and my husband and I would have been lost.

I cannot recommend Lila enough to anyone looking to get a doula.  I originally was not going to get a doula but I'm so glad that I did.  

Meg Summer


After we got home from the hospital, I was emotional and exhausted.  I had not slept in about a week and needed help urgently.  Lila was amazing! She came and spent the night and took care of feeding, cleaned up and did laundry, gave us new parenting advice and was such a help.  I finally got some rest and felt so much better.  I strongly recommend her! She really did save us.

Rob Briggs


Lila was there physically and emotionally when I could not.  She put my wife at ease which put me at ease.  It was great just knowing that while at work, my wiofe had someone to lean on.

She knew exercises to help move the birth along that i did not.  

Lila was the calming precence in the room which was a great help.

Even after it was determioned that a c-section was needed, Lila was there to offer any help and services my wife needed and wanted.

Mary Elizabeth Harris


The minute you meet Lila it is apparent that she is meant to be a Doula.  She is kind, nurturing, calm, and has a silent strength about her.  She is not pushy of her ideas (as I found some other potential Doulas to be).  Lila simply helped me think through what was really important to me and supported me the whole way through, even when those ideas changed!

My husband was initially reluctant about hiring a Doula but after meeting Lila and especially after our baby's delivery he now says it is the best money he has ever spent.  Thanks to Lila I was able to have a successful VBAC at a hospital that is not typically known to be 'VBAC friendly".  She was such a source of both strength and calm for me.  Her presence leading up to my baby's birth, during, and after were absolutely priceless.  Even the doctor and nurses were giving her hugs after delivery. Every time I think of my baby's birth, I think fondly of Lila and how much of it I owe to her.

Rachel Briggs


It's been two years now since I had my daughter and had Lila as my doula.  I still remember being induced and excited only to experience three days of non-labor and that Lila was there when I needed her. She helped me keep my sanity :), kept me focused and reminded me to ask questions, stop and think before making decisions. It was hard to remember those things when you just want the kid out. Lila was a great sounding board, especially during our lovely walks in the hall. While my husband was supportive, having Lila there was invaluable and was the best decision I made. :) 

I highly recommend Lila to be there for your family.  :)

Fei Xue


Loved having Lila as my post partum doula.  She was amazing with my son, warm, gentle, but extremely capable.  Would definitely recommend her to other moms and dads.  

Ken Tarr


Lila was amazing throughout the whole process. She was super responsive to our questions and as first time parents this was essential to our sanity leading up to the birth. She was very helpful during the birth helping me attend to my wife; giving me helpful suggestions and ways that I could best support my wife during the process. She is encouraging and a positive force that made our birth experience amazing. Thanks Lila! HIGHLY recommended to anyone that wants to ensure that they have a great birth experience

Noelle Tarr


If you're looking for a doula who is compassionate, knowledegable, quick to respond, and can read her clients needs well—Lila is THE ONE! I had a completely unmedicated hospital birth, and I couldn't have done it without Lila's support. I ended up having prodromal labor at home for days, and when I was completely exhausted and hadn't even tecnically started labor yet, Lila's advice and attention via text is what helped me get through it. Once at the hospital, Lila did any and everything for my husband and I to make sure we were supported. She made gentle suggestions, and never interfered with our connection, only enhanced it. I really wanted someone who would be able to take my "directness" during labor (I tend not to have the most sensitive tone when I'm in pain! :) ) and Lila didn't miss a beat or make me feel like I needed to be anything but myself. Couldn't recommend her enough! 

Birth Availability for Lila Backenstose

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