I am a father who before our son's birth was skeptical of the doula profession altogether. I thought a third person might invade our privacy. Or perhaps I vainly thought I could support my wife on my own. I had never witnessed a labor before.
In short, Gabe's presence at our son's birth was transformative for me and my wife Janie. She was reassuring, deeply knowledgeable, and created a space for us to bond together - e.g. she did NOT take up too much space on her own. It was truly elegant how Gabe coached and supported my wife, while still letting me play a major supportive role.
She coordinated seamlessly with the midwifes and nurses and advocated on our behalf, with discretion and tact. She is also simply a joy to be around; after our son's birth my wife and I agreed we would very much like to be her friend!
Gabe expertly helped us navigate the more difficult / tense parts of the labor that required major decisionmaking while my wife was in pain. She was able to read my wife's emotions and feelings intuitively in a way that helped us maintain wisdom and poise even during exhaustion. Without Gabe, we may have made decisions differently that might have negatively impacted my wife's labor experience.
Gabe spent so many hours with us before, during, and after the labor. From a financial perspective, her fee was an absolute bargain in my opinion and she would be justified to charge much more.
In a word, we plan to have several more kids, and I will personally do whatever it takes to make sure Gabe is there for each of their births.
February 23, 2021