Birth Fee: $600 to $1200
Birth Doula Experience: 1 years and 1 births attended
Clients per Month: 1 to 4Attends hospital births? All Hospitals
Languages spoken: English
In Response to Olivia Bondarsky Hyman's Post....
I'm sincerely sorry for the way that our short relation began and ended.
I found a post on a local facebook page referring me to Olivia, who was looking for a Pro Bono Doula.. I reached out to her and we quickly set up an interview.. The interview took place when Olivia was 36 1/2 weeks.. At the end of our meeting, I agreed to talk about a contract and a 37 week meeting (which was tricky because of how far along she was)
I did not agree to take Olivia on as a client. We agreed to talk about a contract.
I had an emergency the night we were supposed to meet (another mother) And later on, the more that I looked over my notes from our first meeting/interview, the more that I knew we were not the right fit for each other. I could not confidently say that I could fully support Olivia's needs that she expressed during our interview. Because of the timing, I could not get any of my backups to agree to take on a client just three weeks away..
I apologized and explained to Olivia that the interview is just as much for the doula as it is for the mother to be. Doulas can say no, just as a mother can say no. As far as my memory serves, (our interaction took place 7-8 monts ago,) I let Olivia know that I could not talk on the phone, I was at work.. I told her that I was truly sorry, but she continuted to call and text..
I was very freshly out of my Doula Training and was not sure how to handle the situation, and again sincerely apologize.. I tried to be as honest and helpful as I could be.
I don't like to post anything negative on the internet, but in this case I feel strongly compelled in the interest of protecting all birthing mothers. In a nutshell, my experience with Marie was a disaster before it began. When Marie reached out to me, she seemed professional and responsive. She assured me that she would be on call for me 2 weeks before my due date and 2 weeks after birth; and in the event of an emergency on her end, she had backups who would be able to help. I agreed to work with her because I felt assured that she would not abandon me at my most vulnerable time. Then she cancels our 37 week appointment saying that another mom just went into labor, which i of course understood. The next day she texts me saying that she didn't think she was the right doula for me and that her backups were all booked. No explanation, barely an apology, and refused to speak by phone. I just wanted to know what I did to offend her! And she wouldn't even give me an explanation - she just said she didn't feel a connection to me. This was all 2 weeks before my due date! In the stress of the upcoming baby combined with pregnancy hormones I was beyond devistated. I tried to give some benefit of the doubt, but I cant fathom any excuse for being so mean and heartless to a pregnant woman with no explanation is just unacceptable. Im giving a headsup to any expecting mother who is considering working with Marie. For a doula to be flakey is bad enough, especially so close to a birth, but to make a mother feel that she is not worthy of support is beyond unacceptable. If anyone would like to know more information, feel free to contact the admin for my email. I have saved the entire text conversation so I'm happy to prove that this unfortunate interaction actually happened and I'm not some crazy person who's out to get Marie. Giving big hugs to all the strong and wonderful mothers to be out there! Get yourselves the doula you deserve which is way better than Marie
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